The Value of Good and Bad Experiences...
Author: Faadiel Rehman

I would like to acknowledge and thank Mr. Alan C. Walter who has been researching in this field for close to 40 years now and I would venture that his research expenditure has been probably 40 plus million dollars and many hours of trial runs and testing that probably led to many dead end’s.



However his quest or search for answers is not something one can take lightly or abandon at the first sign of trouble and Mr. Walter’s certainly deserves some gratitude for persisting in this endeavor.



His unswerving dedication to find solid and workable answers are a testament to the spirit of man and his tenacity for answers about life and happiness.



Thank you Alan…



The value of your previous experiences in life in relation to what you’ve learnt at school or college or where you received your education in the field you now find yourself working.





Is your attitude or viewpoint about life based on the sum of your experiences or is it prior knowledge that determines how you will react to situations in your life?



Interesting question huh?



What would your answer be?





There’s a little thing called a precept that Mr. Walter’s spent many years researching or at least it’s something he discovered during his many years of research.



So what’s a precept anyway?



A precept is simply an idea or rule we live by; these rules are created from previous situations and experiences in our life. An example of this is when I was at school I was bullied one time into handing over my pen collection by some of my bigger and stronger class mates.



I don’t know what it was about collecting pens but the guys in the class used to collect some very nice pens and of course I wanted to show my excellent taste in pens so I kept them visible in my top pocket at all times. I wanted desperately to be part of the pen collector’s click.



I know this sounds kind of geeky and it probably was but at the time it was the cool thing to do and I suppose growing up in South Africa is a little or a lot different from other places in the world. Anyway I could elaborate more on that but it would take a whole book to tell you the stories of me growing up in South Africa.



You are probably wondering how this relates to studying – right? Well give me a few moments of your attention because this is very important to our next few steps.



To continue with my story which is really supposed to keep the reader glued to the page because I can tell an exciting story or two, I will continue. So I was bullied into giving up my very cool collection of 5 pens total, it sure made me feel very sad because I did that to be part of the team.



I wanted to be with the big guys in class and I wanted to be as cool as they were because well all the young lasses would hang around them constantly and I wanted to belong.



Darn it I did everything right I had some good looking colorful pens and they still never accepted me. Instead they stole my pens and then laughed at me because I just stood there in amazement completely bewildered by what had just happened. Worst of all was the fact that even a girl that I had a major crush on was laughing too. That really hurt more than anything, but because I was supposed to be a big boy and I had to show courage in the light of being robbed literally.



I said ah its ok “David” you can have the pens I’ll get more later. I could not understand why they kept laughing after that statement because didn’t it mean that I was now also cool because I gave the leader my pens which he stole from me in the first place.



Did I not prove to everyone there that I did not feel so bad after all and that I was cool with it?



Fact of the matter is that I was totally broken up by that situation. I did of course get over it later but at that moment I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me whole.



Have you ever had something similar happen to you? I would venture a guess that it has. If you were one of the cool kids at school then you probably also had some difficulties that you were never able to let your friends know about at the risk of losing your cool status.



I guess some of us could shrug it off and move on but I could not because I was basically your standard run of the mill nice kid “yes believe it or not!” I just wanted to make friends and have fun playing and learning.



From that moment on I developed the following precept.



Precept: I will not own anything of value anymore because people can steal it from me and there is nothing I can do about it anyway.



Do you see how this precept can be damaging to my future? Imagine believing that nothing you own or have is worth anything because at any moment it can be stolen. I stopped placing a value on my possessions and as a result of that I have not really fully owned anything.



I did buy things of value like computers, cars a Harley Davidson motor cycle and even at one stage a really expensive watch.



Truthfully though even the expensive stuff or the stuff of value I owned was always on my mind. I never knew why! I kept very close guard of my stuff. I never trusted anyone to look out for my stuff so I never trusted anyone period. One thing led to another and more precepts led to even more precepts etc… I have no idea how many different precepts I came up with from just that one situation. Possibly thousands of tiny ones that make a whole personality to survive in the cold cruel world.



I could think of a few right now:



Life is so hard

Relationship never work out

Nobody really likes me

I don’t know how to make money

I am so unlucky

I can’t make a difference so why try anyway



The list goes on and on from there… Seems pretty rough doesn’t it?



You are probably wondering if there’s a way to handle these very negative and limiting precepts. What if I told you no? How would that make you feel?



Sorry I had to do that… I can be mean and downright nasty sometimes.



So what about those positive and winning precepts?



A winning precepts or a positive precept is one we develop in a specific situation which then solves the problem presented in the situation so it is immediately stored in our personal database for future reference.



The precept worked it assisted your survival and of course you won the coin toss or what ever the scenario was, at that point you were the victor. I didn’t see any problem with this at first but then after reading and researching more on the subject it became evident that positive precepts can also have a negative effect on ones potential and ability to win in life.



Every time you use the precept it becomes more and more solid and predictable to you, things work for you and in most cases you can handle whatever is coming at you in life.



However the use of a positive precept can be a liability if you use it inappropriately or in the wrong circumstance. Trying to use a winning precept in a changed situation or environment and it can serve to create more problems instead of solve them.



Fortunately for us there is a way to deal with pesky or not so pesky precepts that limit our abilities in life so markedly that we quit completely and come to a very definite halt in every aspect of our lives.



Example: Jeff had tremendous success selling sporting goods to the construction workers who were building a large apartment complex near the store. His style was to carry on a jovial banter, including an occasional risqué story and feigning sparring jabs at his customers. They liked him and his way of communicating. After the construction project was completed and the men left the neighborhood, Jeff continued to operate on this winning precept with the new customers who started coming in, and some of them, especially the ladies, found his behavior offensive and complained to the manager.



Jeff went from a condition of Success on his job to a condition of Failure because of his inability to differentiate between his customers. He had turned a winning precept into a fixed idea which caused him unexpected problems and became a liability to him.





From this viewpoint, we can perceive that each of us has determined our condition by the precepts we use. One can see that they are winning precepts only when applied to the appropriate situation or problem.



More examples on how we form precepts follow…



Example: Child puts hand on hot stove. Precept: Don't put hand on hot stove.



Example: Student, smartly dressed, sits in front row and studies hard. On the way home from school every day a gang of kids taunt him, make fun of him and ridicule his dress, study and diligence. He wants to be liked, wants to be part of the group, and craves acceptance. Precept: Dress like them, act like them. This precept will be a liability to him outside that environment. Only a gang of toughs finds that behavior acceptable.



Example: Daughter comes home early, sees mother kissing a strange man. Precept: You can't trust anyone. This precept will be a liability to her by causing a cynical attitude that precipitates relationship and job problems.



Example: Person visits with a friend. The friend tells him about his new job in sales and how much money he is making. Precept: If he can do it, I can do it! This precept may or may not be appropriate for sales. But the precept, "I can do it!", is necessary for all success. However, setting out with that attitude in a field that is unsuitable could result in a “loss” for the person and turn sales into a “hot stove” that never should be touched again.



Example: Student studies math but cannot grasp the concepts, due to his not understanding fully the definition of "equation", or "radius", or some other part of the vocabulary of mathematics. This confusion causes him to fail. Precept: I'm stupid. This precept will ever afterward be a liability to him until he recognizes that he is not stupid, only in need of study and drilling on the vocabulary of the subject.



Example: Person is illiterate, works slowly and cannot grasp what is wanted. Bosses and staff harass him continually. Precept: I hate people. Obviously, a liability to him.



Example: Person is an expert on physical conditioning. Others are coming to him constantly with questions on physical fitness. Precept: Write book that answers all that one needs to know about conditioning. This precept seems appropriate. Variables would enter into success of this book, including whether he ever writes it and/or, is it well written?





Example: Person observes that others are always coming to him for answers in the area of computer programming. Precept: Form my own computer programming company. This seems an appropriate precept. Variables would include, does he have the business skills to operate the company?



So what is a good education?



Seems to me a good education would be or could be redefined as being that part of learning or acquiring knowledge that helps us to handle the past or previous areas of knowledge that are now no longer valid or applicable or incorrect in our current lifestyles.



We should be able to evaluate with certainty our environment and of course be able to apply correctly what ever knowledge we have to the situation without causing further problems.



I think it would be a most amazing ability to have and I am certainly working towards that in my own life.



You can do it too!!



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Sincerely,

Faadiel Rehman

www.freeyourpower.com



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Life Coach and Negative Emotion and Clearing Facilitor with 15 years of experience in the field of human potential and spiritual development through education and self growth.

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