Magic Wheel. Some ideas to help women through rough times
Author: Galina Toktalieva

When you are dragging through the lower parts of your life sinusoid, cursing everything, it helps to be reflective sometimes. If you really need to, you can cry again, pressing swollen face against damp pillow. Look, your tears are as crystal clear as the drops of mountain's stream. After cleaning yourself in this flow it is always easier to relax and distract. Think for a while about the difference between your physical and spiritual self.

You are much more than just body and complain. Body and present obnoxious state of your mind are only tiny elements of you. Your complete self is boundless. This enormous set includes not only actual perception of beautiful sunset and river, as you see them from the window, but also energetic connection with them, that makes many things around you part of your being. You are everything, what you ever saw and experienced, you are abundant eternity and harmony by itself, the spirit of it, cosmic combination of energies. And one micro cell of this abundance is this feeling of frustration, which currently possesses you and which was highlighted and labeled by your limited consciousness as the central point of universe. Your consciousness worked hard to focus at small item, negative dust speck, one of hundreds, created by your mind, to convert it in illusive chasm.

In this very segment of negativity you experience your "downs", imprisoned by
your own restriction of vision, you move only in this narrow crimson ray of emotional searchlight.

Your wellbeing depends on what segments of reality you choose to emphasize, what segments of infinity you prefer to see. Come on, accept the idea, that your present disaster is: 1. Product of your specific vision; 2. Consequence of your own choice.

To love yourself...What does it mean? It seems, all forms of distress include lack of self love and self-esteem. Old wisdom of biblical words about love to your fellow creatures fairly works in reverse direction. To love yourself less, than others? Why should you make exception for somebody? Other question is how can you practice sincere sympathies to somebody, whom you don't see and percept.

Try to go out of your physical frame for a while. Move the focus of your searchlight along the body of this familiar stranger, study vaguely recognizable features in detail, from red socks till the mole at the neck. Examine bent shoulders, feet, sadly pursed mouth. How touching and vulnerable they are. And this sorrow wrinkle at the forehead – smooth it with compassion. How amazingly brave you are struggling through exasperating thorns of life! Nobody knows the scale of bravery you executed to go on.

May be, you need a little bit more of patience, more fresh air and exercise. Come and cook very good dinner for yourself, as you do it willingly for your family and friends. You deserve to be stimulated and taken care of as any other living creature of the world. Imagine you look at yourself with understanding, kind and shrewd eyes of omnipotent Universal Friend, who discreetly supports and protects all of us.

When you feel disturbed, mind it is not that your Whole Self is disturbed, but
only small fraction of yours, exposed to the spotlight of consciousness. Other, constructive parts of you, are concealed from recognition at the moments of despair, and this concealment distorts your completeness. In the perfect universe there is no reason nor for desperation, not for exaggerated ecstasy. Many, if not all of our so called problems are conceived by vicious circles of consciousness, when we are trapped in surface layer of it.

You can object to this consideration by pointing out at real, not imaginary evils such as lack of health and money, loneliness, betray or fraud of others, who victimized you. You may appreciate your comparative well-being only by accepting the worst. And what can be worse than the death end, after all? Unconsciously you are afraid of the End – of this global annihilation of your world. But it helps to remember about total relativity of any end. All parts of you are exposed to aging and transformation every minute of your life, and you experience now and then what you are afraid of. Current being of your constantly changing physical shell, primary significance of which we exaggerate – is only tiny moment in the process of eternal circulation of eternally transforming elements. The death will be only another phase, relative and minute, but not absolute end of your Whole Self. Many persons are afraid of death, and have life that is worse than hell.

Jumping and shouting, fierce laughing, kicking pillows, opera singing and other things of the same kind terrifying your neighbors – may help to overcome stupor and emotional stagnation. Come and buy something tasty for yourself, even if you are devoted to the idea of healthy eating; food must give you enjoyment, and let prosperous biological corporation of your body take care of nutritional benefits of it; mind many generations of humans, who orientated only at availability and appeal of provisions and went on, instinctively energizing their own nutritional memory and nutritional intuition.

When your five-years old daughter whimpers and asks for strawberry ice-cream, the nutritional considerations can be neglected. You are child as well, who has appearance and responsibilities of adult, but who always contains the significant part of the 5-year old one.

If you appeal for emotional support, trying to find companion to share the burden of your dissatisfaction, it can be, that you will not get anything except of criticism and judgement, about what are particularly sensitive now. Negative energy of distraught provokes rejection and attracts similar energies.

Another point against appeal for urgent emotional support is your exclusiveness. Nobody can really be in your shoes. What you know about yourself is just small part of your Whole Self. What others see in you is merely small part of what you know about yourself. Others dimly see only small top of your personality iceberg under different viewpoints, while the great part of you is hidden from their eyes and is the object of universal mystery. If people judge you, they judge themselves, because only those top slices of iceberg are visible to them, which are reflected in the mirrors of their own traits. We are commonly blind about features, which we don't contain ourselves.

If you seek for emotional support, you can hardly find it, but if you willingly offer support, you diminish your own burden and resolve problems in quick and mysterious way. Like the air always moves in the direction of higher pressure, the energy of abundance moves in direction of its own higher concentration: he, who already has a lot, will have even more. He, who has little, will have even less.
These regulations are always fair: in development of your private affairs or in world economy.

The spiritual teachers wrote about the law of giving as fundamental law of wellbeing. This law contradicts to the main human instinct to get more and more without return, disinterested giving is totally denied by small children, animals and those who don't read Spiritwalk.

It takes time to realize, that giving and receiving are extensions of each other and two sides of the same process, like two semi-spheres of the wheel, that can never be separated. If we are slow to give or prefer not to give at all, we inhibit the progress of the wheel and whole exchange of energies with outer world. As long as wheel of life goes round, the giving and receiving come one after the other in natural way, while concentration at receiving, as well as constant self-denying giving - blocks the movement of magic wheel. When you generously give, you prompt the wheel to move.

When you are troubled, it is vital to shift the perspective, to change perception or angle of view. You can start travelling, change place of residence, circle of your acquaintances, your habits. Try to spend more time outside, like it was in your childhood.

Reconnection with nature helps to restore the natural defense mechanisms of your mind and body. Purposefulness, harmony and genial simplicity of nature will vitalize you, clean out the peel of doubts and help you to restore channels with the sources of joy.

This bird with bright yellow beak, how cute it is, this magnificent tree, standing here for many years and listening to human complaints and prays, how picturesque it is. The wheel of life is going on. The strength and wisdom, that is included in this bird and tree, and in you - powerful, eternal – only this really matters. And every moment of your being is as perfect, beautiful and significant, as any other, as faultless life of stars, sun and wind, caressing you.
Every moment is unique and can give you something special, unforgettable, that can never be repeated. And all of them are equal in its value to each other.
When you are sad and everything goes wrong, stop and think, what blessing is hidden here. Where is the shining pearl of this instant? The sense of it? And it will be there, no doubt, - brilliant and powerful, prompting the magic wheel to move, as it was in happiest moments of your life.








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Galina Toktalieva is author of many articles and stories, published in Russian, she is bilingual writer, professional journalist and translator of inspirational literature http:/members.aon.at/gali; e-mail:galina@aon.at

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