Simple words can change your life
Author: Linda Tracy Jones

You may have noticed how powerful the words you use can be. On the positive side, many words will bring on a warm and happy feeling immediately, when you hear them or think of them. The name of a place you have lived or visited, a person's name, a food, a movie - it could be anything.

On the other side, phobias are a dramatic example of word power at its worst. A person with a true snake phobia will immediately go into a full-blown fight/flight/freeze response just from hearing the word "snake". He might cry, shake and perspire all over, just from hearing “that word?- snake.

Words that cause such powerful responses are subconscious stimulus/response tags. We have only recently (within the last 20 years) learned how to immediately intervene in a way that weakens the power of the words that cause you pain.

Hypnotists will tell you that the subconscious cannot accept a negative. If you think to yourself "don’t forget the keys", you are really instructing your subconscious to "forget the keys". So, if you want the keys, remember :)to say "remember the keys".

Hypnotists will also tell you to use words other than personal “growth? (no disrespect to this website). The subconscious may begin producing warts and tumors or lots of extra body weight if you keep telling it that you want "growth". John Grinder recommends you use instead the phrase "personal evolution".

A really interesting word for the subconscious processes is "recover". Re-cover is actually saying to your subconscious: find it and cover it, find it and cover it again. Be sure to KEEP IT so you can continue to find it again and cover it again, and again, forever (as per your subconscious instructions).

You have probably heard the phrase "be careful what you ask for, you might get it". This statement may be absolutely accurate. When you set your subconscious to a task, its job is to get you EXACTLY what you want. Your subconscious is programmed to try to understand and then to get you what you need for your "survival", so it often carries out your orders by literally translating your thoughts and words.

Another word that has a great deal of power is the word "BUT". lf you notice, whenever you hear the word BUT in a sentence, whatever has been said before that word is about to be CANCELED. "I don't mean to criticize ... but ... yada yada yada ..." Fill in the blank. "I really would like to join you ... but ... bla bla bla" ... the excuse or reason that will explain that there is something else that the person wants to do more, whether it be a prior commitment, a desire to be alone, or wanting to remain free in case of another opportunity. The word "BUT" can sometimes be useful, BUT :) generally, using "and" is preferable. With "and" you can avoid setting up a problem situation in the first place. In addition, it might be useful to eliminate completely the kinds of judgmental sentences that begin with phrases like "I don't mean to criticize, BUT..."

One of the most important principles we use in LivingStressLess programs, is that all behaviors are useful in one place or another and that each of us has our own internal map of reality that is working (proof is, we're still alive). If these statements are true there is not much room for negative judgments in normal life activities, therefore little reason to use the word "but" in that context. Also, when you say "I would really love to go to the beach with you and I have an appointment at 10:00, can we meet at 3:00 somewhere else?" You take the resistance and the presupposition that the appointment is some kind of a problem, while at the same time offering an alternative. The person knows that you do want to spend time with them AND you are going to keep your prior commitments. No problem - just a responsible acknowledgment of the way things are. When you have buts and "have to" in your conversations, there is a possibility of developing and then falling into the role of vic! tim. Depending on the intensity of the situation, you may be playing the role of a seriously victimized person or just the victim of a prior agreement. If, however, your agreements are more important to you than going to the beach, so be it. You are choosing to do what you want to do. If you are going to feel badly about your choice because the beach beckons, that is the extra feeling that you add for yourself. Or, you can think of yourself as one who chooses to keep agreements, and maybe feel good about it (instead). :)

There are many more words and phrases that cause subconscious state, mind and reality changes. Pay attention and you can find areas of your thinking that will make a huge difference for you in your day-to-day mood and states of mind. Be your own detective and have fun with it!








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Now Linda has been successfully delivering LivingStressLess seminars for more than 15 years, throughout North America and Europe. In fact, she has been featured in the Who's Who of American Seminar Leaders. Over 1,000 individuals and 250 corporate, educational, counseling and health organizations have received this life-transforming training. www.maxap.com, ltj@maxap.com

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