What does it take to be happy?
Author: Faadiel Rehman

How is it possible to be happy?


Sometimes we have all wondered about our very existence in this great and abrupt world. Sometimes a person can have millions of dollars or everything the heart apparently desires and still be unhappy.


Let's take the example of a man who has worked all of his life; He has worked hard and raised a big family. He has looked forward to that time in his life when he can retire and enjoy the fruits of his labor. He can finally be happy and cheerful and have lots of time to do the things he really wants to do.


Now we see him after his retirement and is he happy? Nope!


He’s thinks daily about the good old days when he was working hard.


Seems to me our main problem in life is to be happy, but more on that in a moment. Our world may or may not be a place where you can be happy it may not even be designed for lasting happiness. Yet each of us has a goal to be happy and cheerful about life and existence.


We’ve all looked at the world around and said “nobody could be happy in this place”.

We look at the house payments the car payments the dirty dishes in the sink the kids need new clothes the house needs repairs or just the fact that we would like to have a little more money to do the things we want to do. So how the heck is it possible to be happy in this place anyway? You can’t have everything you want. So how is happiness even remotely possible?


You are unable to do the things you want to do so therefore this environment does not permit or make it possible for you to be as happy as you could be.


The funny thing of it all is – many philosophers have said over and over – but the truth of the situation is that all the happiness you ever find lies within you. Remember when you were a kid, out playing with friends, when the world seemed brighter and you looked forward to going outside into the world to play with your friends; twenty five or thirty years later and all that has changed.


The world now seems bleak and what once was a pleasure now requires a great deal of effort to do. So what has changed? Life does not seem to be the same anymore, going outside to enjoy life seems hopeless because of the effort required to be happy.


So what changed? Probably it was you!


Children seem to derive their purpose for life by the amount of grace they put into it. Let me clarify… Imagination and ability to wave a magic want to be anything they want to be is what creates for children the laughter we so often see when they are outside role playing with friends.


I recall clearly playing cowboys and Indians with friends; or cops and robbers. It was so easy to just be those roles we assumed then and the fun we derived from that is life. Some of us see ourselves as a policemen or fireman when we are young and then many years later we look at the policemen and think “darn cops”.


Well what changed here? Has the cop or the fireman changed? Or is it your attitude towards them that has changed? It’s a pretty safe bet that your attitude about them has changed.


Our attitude towards life makes all the difference in how we live our lives. You can study all of the great philosophical books in existence to discover that fact but the bottom line is you have changed. Life has not changed much… Clearly life does not change so much as you do.


A long time ago you were, perhaps, thinking of getting married, having a nice home and family; everything would be just fine. Your husband or wife would come home and you would sit down for dinner and everyone would be happy; then you got married and everything did not quite work out the way you the way you expected.


For one reason or another your wife or husband gets home late; they had an argument with the boss so they don’t feel quite so good today. He or she does not feel like going to the movies or sitting down for an enjoyable dinner that was hours in the preparation.


This results in quite an argument. Both of you work very hard and it seems unfair that this is the result of that hard work. So how do you deal with a situation like this?


Does the marriage have to end? Do we set fire to house and send the kids to live with grandma? What do we do?


Well there are a few things we can do. Least of all is to take a look at the environment and the world around you. Instead take a look around you and ask yourself these simple questions “Where am I? What am I doing here?” And then once you can find out where you are and why you are there; see if you can find a way to make it more livable and likeable.


The day that you stop creating an happy environment, when you stop using your imagination or stop being the cowboy or the Indian you once were as a kid is the day that your life ceases to be graceful and magical, this stop being interesting or beautiful.


Most of us seek happiness in various ways. Our search is usually hectic as though it’s some sort of a mechanical thing that exists—maybe it’s in a new car or more money or better friends, maybe it’s on our bookshelf at home or on the next corner, or someplace else.


So we know were looking for something, but oddly enough the only time we will ever find it is if we first put it there or create it first. This may not sound very plausible but it is quite true. Those of us who have become unhappy about life are unhappy about life solely and completely because we have ceased to make life happen for us.


This is the main difference amongst the happy and the unhappy; we have stopped creating life. The unhappy person is being created by life and his environment; he or she is being created by life; life is handling and making and changing him.


And then you have the happy person; he is making life; he is cheerful, strong and happy; things are pleasurable. If you looked closely you would notice that he is making life, and that is the primary difference between being happy and unhappy:


Are you creating life or is life creating you?


Look closely at this; you will see that the unhappy person has stopped creating life because he has logically decided that life cannot be created. Maybe some small failure, failing a class in school, being dumped by a girlfriend or boyfriend, having a car stolen, losing a lot of money. This then starts the attitude of “Well, I lost,” and then life starts to create him or her; he or she is no longer creating life.


This situation could be critical if we could do nothing about it. The fact of the matter is that something can be done about it. It is probably the easiest problem we face today; changing ourselves or somebody else attitude. Seems to me that the attitude of others towards you seems to make or break your life.


It occurs to me that your business or home holds because of your partner or spouses attitude towards you or how they feel about you. This can only mean that we have to change two attitudes; your attitude toward somebody else; their attitude toward you.


Are there ways to do this? Fortunately for us there are many ways to do this. For many years now mankind has desired to know how to change a persons mind and his own condition for the better. Many discoveries have been made in the field of the mind and changing conditions for ones fellows. The human mind does not seem to be an unsolvable problem anymore.


Miracles occur daily. So what are these miracles anyway? Well there are many. They consist of people recovering from incurable illness; people becoming happy after being unhappy for many years; they also exist in the abilities of man to abolish the danger and conditions one faces in life.


The answer is seems has been with man for a long time now. Mankind has been able to reach out for these answers and knowledge. So maybe man had to change himself; modern times have proved that the physical world is not filled with ghosts and ghouls.


We have outlived our superstitious attitude toward life and the ignorance of some of our ancestors. Every step we have taken including the mistakes and areas of life that have been conquered for the better are all leading to one major discovery.


The discovery and ability to handle life!


Man has conquered life and the mind. We’ve seen and have first hand experience of this at www.freeyourpower.com.


This has been done through spiritual counseling, the use of the Clean Slate procedure and many other techniques. Education is the key to change; action it seems must follow.


Various technologies have been developed to help man understand himself and the world around him.


This has been the goal for many years and it has been realized.


Best wishes in your journey to find happiness.


Look out for my next article – The Rules for a happy life. I am not sure what the title will be but “The Rules for a happy life seems to work for now”.


Also


If you are interested in changing your life and would like to experience some of the techniques we have to offer then email me: frehman@freeyourpower.com


Rates vary based on the type of technique we will use to assist you in making and creating your life. Also do checkout the online store. We have a few items that could get you started!


I would appreciate your feedback on this article since it took sometime to write and I would like to know if my writing skills have improved. Theres just no way of knowing unless I get some feedback.


Your opinion means alot to me.


Best,


Faadiel Rehman

www.freeyourpower.com








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Transformational Clearing Practitioner and spiritual growth counselor with 15 years of experience. Speaker and teacher in the field of human potention and education in the field of spirituality to assist individual in attaining the freedom to live happier lives.

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