Bluebeard: A Case Study of the Fairy Tale and How it Impacts Certain Women's Dating Choices
Author: Christopher Jon Luke Dowgin

Bluebeard: A case study of the Fairy Tale and
how it impacts certain women's dating choices.



Now since the ancient days of the
traveling mistral or fireside Shaman, every culture around the world had storytellers
that instructed youths and adults on how to find happiness when it seemed to
be lost. Knowing that people sometimes can not bring claim to their problems
or just will be simply bored with allot of technical jargon. So they invented
fabulous stories
to captivate our imaginations using the symbols that resonate deep within our
minds from a time before language was ever created. The same place in a baby
turtle on Galapagos Island knows to run to the ocean as fast as possible and
zag or zig when it sees a shadow from above without ever seeing a hawk or gull
before. Allot of tales have to do with helping a child to follow its instinct's
when a care giver or parent is insufficient in his roles as a teacher or becomes
just down right abusive. Under harrowing circumstances, how can a child retain
what it knows to be true in its heart under such constructs. Or reshape them
in the future to save their lives? As Carl Jung and the women that proceeded
him; Woodman, Pinkola Estes, Von Franz; the found these stories of regained
truth in the
fairy Tales and Myths
of the world. For your listening pleasure, I have encapsulated one as an example.



Bluebeard



Three daughters were raised amongst their mother and father, plus
two brothers. But before the youngest daughter reached puberty the father and
the two brothers were sent off to war. Not to return for many years.



So it came to the time that the youngest daughter was itching
for a mate. So her and her two sisters were riding in the commons on Sunday
as the finest men and women paraded out and about on horseback in all their
finery. When the youngest of them spied a man with a blue beard. The older sisters
were taken a a back by his appearance. "Look at that Blue beard, how revolting!"
said the oldest with the second oldest consented with a guffaw. But the youngest
remarked he was quite striking. The sisters starred in disbelief at their sibling.
The second oldest mentioned he was rumored to have been married several times.
The oldest concurred and added his wives have never been heard from again. "
But he is quite cute" said the youngest as she rode off to make his acquaintance.



Within the month the youngest was married and living in his castle.
Now the castle with its moat is the symbol of the subconscious's. It represents
the journey from your skull across the water barrier to your brain. This is
where all the fun happens, if you like it or not. Because the drawbridge slams
shut once you enter..



One day after a week of marriage, Bluebeard announced that he
must go on a prolonged journey to pay for her luxurious room and board. A normal
occurrence that happens even today, making the woman feel like she is married
to a stranger. He handed her the keys to all the rooms of the castle including
one small key. This was to the room she was to never enter upon. Unless desiring
serious consequences to her well being. So he left and she of course checked
out all the rooms. Especially the one with the little key!



When she opened that door she was taken back by a mass of congealed
blood on the floor that had leaked and splattered out by all the corpses she
now found lying upon the floor and nailed to the walls. Arms to the right and
the heads stacked to the left. Here was all his past wives. This represents
the skeletons in the closet we all have/ the problems, obstacles, and challenges
we must face to get to a better life. But like she did, we find it easier just
to close that door as quick as we found it. We always think we can clean out
the cobwebs of the closet another day. But like Daffy Duck, every time we put
things off, we get the closet emptying onto our head an avalanche.



Now the woman tries to hide the key in a cupboard. But it leaks
blood onto the floor. She hides it in a pantry, but the blood gives up its location.
No matter where she hid it, the blood soon gave it up. This represents the time
when we see where change is needed in our lives, we can not escape or deny it.
We must face it to bring change. If we do not... Bluebeard enters once again
and asks for the keys. Now the cost of our mistakes get higher, and eventually
may lead to death if w do not answer them. She gives him all but the one. He
knows right off the bat she has been in the room. He now represents the man
who is afraid of us seeing him for what he is, who wants to blind us to the
truth about his abuse. For he fears change the most. He has to admit to the
abuse he has received in the past and feel the guilt for the abuse he has given.
If you change he must also. So he becomes quite irritate. On another level it
is our own shadows who will not let us rest until we bring the change necessary
to our lives. For this time it welcomes the danger into your home, for all harm
that comes to you, granted under great duress, you invited in. It is the spanking
that has been put off too long.



So Bluebeard chases her through the castle, our minds, with a
sword ready to kill her. Her sisters appear to help her and keep a look out
for her brothers coming back from war. Now since at the age of puberty, the
youngest daughter had no healthy male figure in her life, she could not tell
by his beard like her sisters that he was dangerous. The oldest had the father
and brother to teach them what a loving man is. The youngest did not. So the
return of the brothers is the healthy animus returning to save the youngest
sister. So now in the distance the smoke from the dust cloud of her brothers
on horseback can be seen. The sisters yell to them and they increase their pace
to a full gallop. Bluebeard is ascending after his wife proclaiming " I
do not want to hurt you, I just want to bash your brains in." She is almost
to the top steps where her sisters sits, when the two brothers bust into the
room and dispatch the blue meanie. It is never too late to have healthy men
in your life to learn from. They will teach you as friends how to find a healthy
mate. For the brothers come in time to slay the shadow Bluebeard and prepare
the youth for a healthy marriage in the future. Now did you ever think a fairy
tale could ever be that important?



Summary.... In our adolescence it is important to have a healthy
sex role model to shape our construct of what a loving male or female is so
we will be attracted to a healthy mate. Bluebeard is a fairy tale about what
happens when this does not happen by absence or abuse by a sexual role model.



This is fairy tale interpretation. There is a story for everyone.
There is no mistake that you have made that has not happened already without
a story of how to solve the problem.



Come
and see...








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Christopher Jon Luke Dowgin is Chief Counselor at Life Coach Services @ Docspond.

He has been counseling people for over twenty years in the Salem Ma and Ocean County region of New Jersey and is available for free articles,

lectures, collegiate course, and seminars

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